You can stop the stress in your life with one simple word, and that word is "no!" Yes, the little word "no" is a very big word. It can end stress, free up your love life, and make you happier than all the other words in the English language put together. How many times have you said "yes," "okay," or "sure" to a guy you were dating when all you really wanted to do was scream "NO!"?

If you can learn to use the word "no" freely and easily and without guilt, you will have mastered one of the biggest ways to reduce stress in your love life. As women, we find it hard to say "no" because we are givers and caretakers. We feel guilty when we cannot be everything to everyone. We try hard every day to meet the needs of everyone around us, including the guy we're dating, engaged or married to.

It is only when we meet our own needs, however, that we unlock the key to being able to meet the needs of our loved ones. Without replenishing ourselves, we have nothing left to give to the guy we're dating or anyone for that matter. Using the little word "no" to endless requests for help gives us energy for ourselves. You will find yourself more able to give to your hottie and others in your life when you put yourself first and make good use of the word "no."

One way to start is to make a mental note when you find yourself saying "no" during the day. Also make a note when you wish you had said "no" to your man but you didn’t. With time, you will recognize the situations and circumstances that come up when you should have said "no" but didn’t. It will be easier to say "no" each time you recognize the need to, and your reward will be a more stress free life and more energy to go around to your man and the loved ones you really care about.